So, here is the thing—if you’re stepping into the world of surrogacy (as a parent or surrogate), the agency you pick isn’t just a service provider. They’ll be your support system for months—sometimes years. And yeah, choosing one can feel like navigating a maze in the dark.
When I first investigated it, I had no idea what questions to ask. Everything sounded professional and polished. But trust me, what you really need to know does not always show up on their websites.
Start by asking: “How long have they been around?”
Sounds obvious, but some agencies are new to the game. That is not always bad, but experience means they have handled surprises and hiccups before. Ask how many surrogacies they have successfully completed. It gives you a better idea of whether they know what they are doing—or if you would be one of their first few clients.
What exactly do they help with?
Don’t assume all agencies offer full support. Some help only with finding a surrogate, while others take care of medical scheduling, legal stuff, and emotional support. It is okay to ask: “So, if something goes wrong during the pregnancy, who helps?” A good agency will not just go silent when things get tricky.
Matching is not just a formality
This part is personal. Matching intended parents with surrogates isn’t like swiping on a dating app—it’s deeper. Ask how the agency makes those matches. Do they interview both sides? Do you get to talk to each other before saying yes? The last thing anyone wants is tension during something as sensitive as a surrogacy.
Money talk matters (more than you think)
Surrogacy is costly and demands a full breakdown of the costs. What is in the charge, and what are the hidden extras? Escrow accounts are frequently used by agencies to deal with payments and prevent disputes. It is important to note that parents are not allowed to give money to the surrogate; they can do that with the help of the agency.
What if someone needs support during the journey?
This parts often overlooked. Whether you are carrying the baby or waiting to become a parent, the emotional ride is real. Some days are exciting, others are heavy. Ask the agency if they offer access to counselling or support groups. It really helps knowing there is someone to talk to.
Legal stuff- Do not skip it
Surrogacy is a matter of contracts, medical rights, and legal documentation, and it usually requires a lawyer. Surrogates must fit into a certain criterion, such as age, previous healthy pregnancies, and health screening under new surrogacy laws. In some areas, surrogates must be the region’s citizens, which will provide legal protection to all stakeholders.
And lastly, can you talk to real people?
Here is a little trick: ask to speak with someone who has already worked with the agency. Not a celebrity case, just a regular surrogate or parent. If they hesitate or dodge that request… maybe think twice. Word of mouth tells you more than fancy brochures ever will.
Honestly, choosing a surrogacy agency is not about picking the biggest name. It’s about finding a team you trust, who listens, and who is ready to walk with you through the ups and downs. Take your time, ask your questions (all of them!), and do not be afraid to walk away if something does not feel right.
